How Monks Limit Choices to Expand Freedom

Moderation can be applied in many areas of life and most of...

August 12, 2025

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Moderation can be applied in many areas of life and most of us know - “hey, yea moderation is generally a good thing.” But we don't often think of moderating or restricting our options or potential choices. 

But much of the monastic life actually restricts and focuses the panoply of choices. You make vows of poverty, obedience, and chastity. You live with pretty much the same schedule and routine everyday. And all of this is, well, ironically extremely liberating.

We’re told more choices mean more freedom. But Saint Anthony the Great knew the opposite is often true: too many options can make us less free.

When everything is possible, nothing feels satisfying.

Take two examples:

  • Streaming media: You have 15,000+ titles at your fingertips. Freedom? Not quite. You spend 20 minutes scrolling, paralyzed by options, and lose the simple pleasure of watching something.

  • Invitations: Five events in one week. You say “maybe” to all, keeping options open. Result? You’re half-present to each, wondering about the paths not taken.

The paradox is clear: when you refuse to choose, choice can choose you.

Monks and nuns understand that limiting your options isn’t restriction—it’s conscious selection. It frees you from decision fatigue, fear of missing out, and the exhausting need to “optimize” every move.

True freedom isn’t having every door open. It’s choosing the right door and stepping fully inside.

Monks know peace doesn’t come from chasing endless possibilities, but from deepening commitment to what matters most.

Put It Into Practice This Week

This week, identify one area where too many options weigh you down—your watchlist, weekend plans, even your morning coffee spot.

Pick one option early and commit. Stop managing possibilities; start living your choice.

The goal isn’t limitation—it’s presence. When you let go of endless options, you make space for intentional, wholehearted living.

Wishing you abundant peace this week,

John

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